Welcome to the survivors page, designed for anyone who has been affected by sexual abuse at any time in their life:

 Unfortunately sexual abuse is very common. Estimates suggest that as many as one in six males experience sexual abuse at some time in their life.

Most victims never tell anyone about it – sometimes because they are frightened, worried about being blamed or about what other people might say.

Boys and men tell us that it when they are abused, it can be a very confusing and frightening time for them and that it can cause a lot of problems and affect the way they think, feel and behave.

Boys also say that they often do not know who they can talk to, or where they can go for support. This can often make a person feel lonely, isolated and hopeless.

We would like you to know you are not alone, and that support is available.

About us: First Step is an organisation to help boys and men who have experienced sexual abuse at any time in their life. Our staff are specially trained to offer services and support to boys, young men and their families.

We will always listen to you, believe you and treat you with respect at all times.

We will make sure that you have choices and support to solve any problems you have.

We will not judge you, hurt you in any way, or make you do anything that you do not want to do.

Our services are free and confidential. (That means we will not tell anyone about what happened without your permission).

Some of the help we offer includes:

  • Listening to your story
  • Protecting you and making sure the abuse stops
  • Helping you to solve problems
  • Helping you access medical and legal support
  • Supporting you to find a safe place to live
  • Help with education or work
  • Support for your friends or family

If you would like to know more about First Step or talk to one of our team, please contact us by calling 012 461 460 or writing an email. Or you prefer, you can ask a friend or someone you trust to contact us on your behalf.

Thank you for visiting this page.

Information for family, friends and supporters:

Little is known about the sexual abuse of boys and men but it is very common. It is very harmful and victims and survivors need your support and love in order to recover.

Family and friends of boys and young men affected by abuse tell us that it can be difficult for friends and family to know how to help.

At First Step, we also offer support and services to family and friends. All our services are free and confidential and just a phone call away. If you would like to know more about what we do, or speak to one of our team please contact us. Your call will be treated confidentially.


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